Sunday, September 27, 2009

the 90%-10% principle.......

Hallo people,
hope you have been having a good and if not so good week well here is something that can change how your next week will be. It’s called the 90/10 Principle by
Stephen Covey.
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
…90% of life is decided by how you react…
What does this mean?
Well let us use an example

There’s a man who is having breakfast with his family, suddenly his daughter knocks over his cup of coffee onto his business shirt. He had no control over what just happened.
But what happens next will be determined by how he reacts.

If he curses and harshly scolds his daughter for knocking the cup over, she breaks down in tears. After scolding her, he turns to his wife and he criticizes her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table and a short verbal battle follows. He storm upstairs and change his shirt. Back downstairs, he finds his daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school. She misses the bus and rushes to the car and drives his daughter to school. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60.00 traffic fine away for driving 40 miles per hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone., he arrives at school and his daughter runs into school alighting from the car without saying goodbye. He then arrives at the office 20 minute late, and he realizes he forgot his briefcase.

His day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.
When he arrives home, he find a small wedge in his relationship with his wife and daughter. Why? Because of how he reacted in the morning.

Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over his daughter is about to cry.
He gently says:
“It’s okay, honey, you just need to be
More careful next time.”
Grabbing a towel he goes upstairs and changes his shirt. He grabs his briefcase and comes back down in time to look through the window and see his child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. He arrives 5 minutes early to work.
Notice the difference?
So if someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge.
Let the attack roll off like water on glass you do not have to let the negative comments
affect you....
It only takes willpower to give ourselves permission to make the experience.

Absolutely everything we do, give, say, or even think, it’s like a Boomerang. It will come back to us...
Have a luvly week y’all

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